“I am someone who is looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love.”—
Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City Season 6 Episode 20
you know i’m starting to rethink this statement that once defined what i thought love or a relationship was. the impractical things i did in the first relationship, the thrills, the crazy arguments and fights followed by whispering sweet-nothings, cancelling plans just to spend shit-load of time with each other … i’m not sure how i even lived through all that.
i do enjoy the practicalities of this relationship, that even though both of us are uber busy and probably rather independent in our individual lives - it keeps us in a stable emotional state to better enjoy and love each other.
“The city, the noted urban sociologist Robert Park once wrote, is “man’s most consistent and on the whole, his most successful attempt to remake the world he lives in more after his heart’s desire. But, if the city is the world which man created, it is the world in which he is henceforth condemned to live. Thus, indirectly, and without any clear sense of the nature of his task, in making the city man has remade himself.”1 If Park is correct, then the question of what kind of city we want cannot be divorced from the question of what kind of people we want to be, what kinds of social relations we seek, what relations to nature we cherish, what style of life we desire, what aesthetic values we hold. The right to the city is, therefore, far more than a right of individual or group access to the resources that the city embodies: it is a right to change and reinvent the city more after our hearts’ desire. It is, moreover, a collective rather than an individual right, since reinventing the city inevitably depends upon the exercise of a collective power over the processes of urbanization. The freedom to make and remake ourselves and our cities is, I want to argue, one of the most precious yet most neglected of our human rights. How best then to exercise that right?”—
“I want all these young people to be getting a higher education, and I don’t want them loaded up with tens of thousands of dollars of debt just to get an education. That’s how we make America great.
Of course, that means all of you all have got to hit the books. I’m just saying. Don’t cheer and then you didn’t do your homework.
Because that’s part of the bargain, that’s part of the bargain—America says we will give you opportunity, but you’ve got to earn your success.
You’re competing against young people in Beijing and Bangalore. They’re not hanging out. They’re not playing video games. They’re not watching “Real Housewives.” I’m just saying. It’s a two-way street. You’ve got to earn success.
That wasn’t in my prepared remarks. But I’m just saying.”—President Obama today, keeping it real (via barackobama)
“Every now and then. Every once in a while she’ll get worked up and cry like that. But that’s OK. She’s letting her feelings out. The scary thing is not being able to do that. When your feelings build up and harden and die inside, then you’re in deep trouble.”—
“Love is everything. Love is what we’re here to do. It’s what the cost is. The cost of love is death. That’s the price you pay for loving people, you have to say goodbye. It’s a heartbreaker. But it’s worth the cost. It’s worth it at the cost. I don’t think you can have one without the other. Without death, you could never love anybody because love exists only with the potential that it could be lost. For me, these two things are sisters. They sleep together. That feeling of holding someone in the morning doesn’t mean anything if you don’t know that one day you won’t hold them. That’s what makes it precious.”—Torquil Campbell (via iaryl)
Everyone wants healthy relationships. But the real question is: Are you willing to do what it takes to thrive in friendship, working relationships, in marriage? Whatever relationship you are in, the choice to change and grow is in your hands.